Be A Master Communicator
You are a master communicator if you are able to get your message across, clearly and concisely. A master communicator is one who has the ability to reach out to people from all walks of life and make the biggest impact with the simplest and most basic of words. He spoke words of substance and did so while keeping his public in mind at all times. He did not regale them with grandiose elocutions and flamboyant, highfalutin language. Instead, he paid careful attention to their reactions and was more concerned with conveying his meaning effectively and making his listeners understand him. So if a certain speech did not work, he made sure the next one did, and that made people respond to him positively and appreciatively.
Surprisingly enough, the key to being a great conversationalist lies not in your gift of gab. Rather, it is your ability to listen that should mainly come into play. The average human being is capable of uttering about 150 words a minute. Compare that to the 500-600 words that the brain can process in the same amount of time. This is why it takes so much more effort to listen rather than talk. And so you find yourself drifting away into sweet oblivion when a particularly chatty coworker accosts you at the water cooler. It takes time, discipline, and a whole lot of patience to develop a talent for listening.
You are a master communicator if you have great conversation skills. Conversation takes place when there are two or more parties involved and the message is successfully passed from point A to point B. But what happens when it turns into a one-way street and transmission does not flow back from point B to point A?
In order for a conversation to be considered successful, you will have to talk less. A great conversationalist does not need to do all or most of the talking. Rather, it is the conversation partner who will happily carry that burden unsuspectingly. And you will find, to your pleasant surprise, that the other person will be most responsive as well. Remember, a great conversationalist is the one who asks good questions, and then listens intently to the answers.
Know what type of person you’re talking to. Be sensitive to their own personality and adjust your approach accordingly. Some are more shy and withdrawn than others, so don’t be too aggressive and come out with guns a-blazing or you’ll scare them off. Do they look you straight in the eye or prefer tracing mental patterns on the floor? Be confident and refreshing to put them more at ease. Being nervous yourself won’t make things any better. If you can’t help it, at least take consolation in the thought that the other person is just as nervous as you are, and that puts you on level ground. Nervous habits include touching your face, especially your mouth, or raising your glass to your lips even if you’re not drinking. Resist the urge to move in such a way. Always be aware of yourself and try to control your mannerisms.
Relax. Smile and greet the other person. Introduce yourself. Reintroduce yourself if you’ve met previously. Never assume that they remember you. If they do, let them say so.