One of the biggest reasons, perhaps the biggest reason people don’t succeed in achieving their dreams is negative self talk. You will have what you say, positive or negative, whether your speaking it or circulating it in your thoughts. You can generate negative self talk […]
We are constantly asking ourselves questions, either in a positive or negative manner. Most of the time this is not a very conscious process. For example, something bad happens and we ask ourselves, “Why me?” Our minds start to find answers to that question, effectively […]
You are a master communicator if you are able to get your message across, clearly and concisely. A master communicator is one who has the ability to reach out to people from all walks of life and make the biggest impact with the simplest and most basic of words. He spoke words of substance and did so while keeping his public in mind at all times. He did not regale them with grandiose elocutions and flamboyant, highfalutin language. Instead, he paid careful attention to their reactions and was more concerned with conveying his meaning effectively and making his listeners understand him. So if a certain speech did not work, he made sure the next one did, and that made people respond to him positively and appreciatively.
Surprisingly enough, the key to being a great conversationalist lies not in your gift of gab. Rather, it is your ability to listen that should mainly come into play. The average human being is capable of uttering about 150 words a minute. Compare that to the 500-600 words that the brain can process in the same amount of time. This is why it takes so much more effort to listen rather than talk. And so you find yourself drifting away into sweet oblivion when a particularly chatty coworker accosts you at the water cooler. It takes time, discipline, and a whole lot of patience to develop a talent for listening.
You are a master communicator if you have great conversation skills. Conversation takes place when there are two or more parties involved and the message is successfully passed from point A to point B. But what happens when it turns into a one-way street and transmission does not flow back from point B to point A?
In order for a conversation to be considered successful, you will have to talk less. A great conversationalist does not need to do all or most of the talking. Rather, it is the conversation partner who will happily carry that burden unsuspectingly. And you will find, to your pleasant surprise, that the other person will be most responsive as well. Remember, a great conversationalist is the one who asks good questions, and then listens intently to the answers.
Know what type of person you’re talking to. Be sensitive to their own personality and adjust your approach accordingly. Some are more shy and withdrawn than others, so don’t be too aggressive and come out with guns a-blazing or you’ll scare them off. Do they look you straight in the eye or prefer tracing mental patterns on the floor? Be confident and refreshing to put them more at ease. Being nervous yourself won’t make things any better. If you can’t help it, at least take consolation in the thought that the other person is just as nervous as you are, and that puts you on level ground. Nervous habits include touching your face, especially your mouth, or raising your glass to your lips even if you’re not drinking. Resist the urge to move in such a way. Always be aware of yourself and try to control your mannerisms.
Relax. Smile and greet the other person. Introduce yourself. Reintroduce yourself if you’ve met previously. Never assume that they remember you. If they do, let them say so.
For some time I have been toying with the idea of organising a Blogging Group Writing Project under the Personal Development auspices. I believe now is the right time to start one. I am calling this Group Writing Project: How I Want To Be Seen. […]
All of us, in one way or another, experience depression and anxiety, or sometimes panic attacks, especially when dealing with circumstances or struggles beyond our control. It seems as if these negative emotions are interconnected with each other, and they truly are. But in some […]
All human Beings were born with a boundless and immeasurable power. It is this power that has made you what you are today, and it is the power that will make you what you will be in a year, two years, five years etc.
All things got started with a thought. And it is this thought that is the power in you. Personal Development practitioners call this power – Mind Power. Mere thoughts are so powerful that it can turn into something tangible. All you have to do is to focus your mind into thinking in the right manner and this can make you achieve what you want to achieve.
If there is anything you desire that you feel you cannot have, what you need to do is tap into your Mind Power. The boundless and immeasurable power of your mind is richly endowed to provide your desire, in a matter of time.
Your first step in achieving your desire is to develop a passion. How much passion do you have for the thing you desire. Thinkers say Passion is Power! Create a strong passion for the thing you want, in your mind and in your actions.
Be clear in your mind the exact thing you want. Be specific about it. If it is a car you want, you must be definite about it – the type, model etc. Focus your mind about the exterior, the paint. The interior décor, the steering wheel, the upholstery. Fasten your mind on these details.
Visualise your desire. Use your mind to see how the car moves. See yourself entering the car, starting the car and driving it round your town, and waving to friends and acquaintances. Feel the enjoyment you want in the car.
Believe all these visualizations. See yourself actually owning the car, and all these becoming a reality.
From time to time, during your visualizations you will receive a spark of message to do one thing or the other. These are Inspired Actions. Take these actions without hesitations. These are actions demanded by the Universal Supreme Intelligence, after your subconscious has communicated your passion to Him, and He has communicated back to your subconscious mind.
Take these inspired actions and in a matter of time your desire will come true.
Positive Self Talk is a conscious effort of using one’s mind to replace negative thoughts and beliefs with positive thoughts and beliefs, thereby using one’s mind to influence one’s performances positively. Positive Self Talk is a tool which could be used by anyone to help […]
We all need to make use of Positive Self Talk to put ourselves in the proper frame of mind to face the challenges of meeting our goals in the new year. And here’s welcoming you to the year 2018. Let me spread the love of […]
Some people who have had one problem or the other have blamed everything from ill-luck to bad government policies, for their misfortunes, instead of blaming themselves. The most significant determining factor to success is Positive Self Talk.Have you heard the saying, “Your mind Is Everything”? Your attitude, either positive or negative plays a great role in what you are now and what you will be in years to come.
Your Self Talk will dictate your perspective, the way you interpret things,the decisions you make, the actions you take, and the results you get.
Changing your attitude from negative to positive can get you to your goals more quickly, and it can also get you there in style, enjoying the ride more fully. Positive Self Talk is shortcut is for everyone, because even if you have a great attitude already, it could always be better. It doesn’t matter if you have a little goal or a massive dream, a small annoyance or a huge problem, shifting your attitude will help, and it might just radically transform your situation.
Practising Positive Self Talk will give you the following attributes which would pave the way for your success: warmth, friendliness, confidence, determination, unstoppability, playfulness, easy-going, outrageousness, peace, open-mindedness, compassion, optimism, and remove all of their negative counterparts from your system. You can ultimately become very creative and experiment with different attitudes for different situations, which will lead you to being more powerful and effective.
People often think it’s hard or impossible to change our Self Talks from negative to positive, so we don’t try. The truth is that it’s easy to change your attitude, if you know how.
A problem faced by dogmatic people is the tendency to think that attitude is born of the situation.
They think that their attitudes are the right attitudes for the way things are. Therefore, they allow their attitudes to go unexamined and unquestioned. Many people are guilty of this. It is true that our attitudes are completely optional and flexible.
How To Change To Positive Self Talk and Attitudes
1. Decide. Your first step is to decide that you want to change to Positive self Talk. Then set your intention to adopt that attitude. On most ocassions, this is all that is necessary to shift your attitude dramatically.
2. Break Away from Your Pattern: If you catch yourself with a bad attitude, it can be useful to do something radical and surprising to break away from your pattern: jump up and down, dance in a circle, pore ice water over your head, sing at the top of your lungs, whistle a silly tune, put on some great music, or whatever to break your pattern. Then create a fresh attitude.
3. Role Models: Find people who are getting the kinds of results you would like to be getting. Watch them carefully to see what kind of attitude they have and how they express that attitude. Copy them. This step had produced amazing result, if adopted properly.
4. Surround Yourself With Positive People: Attitudes are contagious. Who you surround yourself with and spend time with is probably influencing your attitudes way more than you are consciously aware.
It is pathetic to see how lack of Positive Self Talk has affected so many people, both young and old. Many people are afraid to speak their mind in public. Many students who know the answer to questions teachers ask in school prefer to keep […]